My homework assignment is to take this diagram of nonmonogamy and figure out 1) where Master, Tapeti and I are on it, and 2) where I'm afraid of us going. So what I don't want. I marked where we are with a happy face and where I don't want to be with a saddie face. Whereas there wasn't really a quote-example for where we are - Open-poly-kinky-casual sex - the quote for where I'm afraid of going is in Unicorn Polyamory: "My husband allows me to have another girlfriend, but I am not allowed to have another man."
My fear goes gender-reversed, too - that I would have a girlfriend who doesn't want me to date any other women, only men. It would be le sad.