Monday, August 13, 2012

Blowing off the dust

I haven't posted for a while, for no real reason other than I haven't felt like it. I'm in a comfortable place w/r/t my kinkiness and my feminism, so I haven't needed to hash that out here; I'm still in an LDR (well, multiple LDRs), so I don't get a lot of play-time to recount; things have, overall, been quiet.

One change that has occurred over the months, though, is that I no longer identify as a sub; I identify as a switch now. I still submit to Master, of course, but I now dom Ume more than vice-versa. So it feels wrong to call myself just a sub.

I think I just wasn't confident enough in myself to "take control" as a dom before. Women are supposed to be submissive, so it was easy for me to adopt that role. But now I've been sexually active for almost six years, and kinky for just a little bit less time, so now I feel competent enough to dom. But subbing is still a lot of fun, so there's no way I'm going to stop doing that!

I should probably rename this blog, though, to more accurately reflect my new identity. Any ideas are welcome.