Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Where to turn

For a series of reasons that I won't get in to, a while ago Master vetoed a guy I was seeing. I ended things with the guy, but I'd still like to be friends with him.

Master has a lot more experience maintaining relationships with exes than I do (mine have all tended to drift out of my life altogether), so I thought I'd ask him for advice and reassurance.

But he got mad as soon as I mentioned the guy, and he shut down the conversation. I don't understand; I thought he said I wouldn't have to cut the guy out of my life entirely, but it seems like I will have to if I don't want to either 1) frequently piss Master off or 2) keep one of my friends "in the closet" all the time.

I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I love Master utterly and completely, and I'm not going to leave him over this. But it still hurts.


Sometimes Jane said...

Ugh, I totally feel you. This has happened to me- with boys I hooked up with prior to my relationship. He gets a bad vibe and doesn't want me hanging out with them anymore. And I'm left either cutting them out of my life, or having him get upset and grumpy every time they come up. It is frustrating.

Zula said...

Incredibly so. The best compromise we've come up with so far is to just not mention him by name unless it's unavoidable - we normally hang out as part of a group anyway, so it's not that difficult, but bleh. Not an ideal situation.