Master wants me to pick three questions from this IAMA on Reddit to answer, so here I go!
1) Re: the dynamic between those in the "pre-established" relationship and the "new" relationship - there definitely is a difference, and it's one that is still jarring to me at times. There are no "rules" for this kind of dynamic (at least none that are common knowledge), so when I try to fit my reality to the standards society gives me it often doesn't fit. And then I wonder if something is wrong, but there's no real reason to think that other than that my relationship doesn't fit others' expectations.
2) A couple people brought up extended family, and I have to admit that I'm considering coming out to my family. I haaaate hate hate hate it when I have to refer to Tapeti as my "friend" when talking to them, or when I have to consciously omit her from retellings of my weekends. It leaves a sour taste in my mouth. But I think I need to talk to her and Master about it more first.
3) Sleeping arrangements - I'm honestly thinking about getting a bigger bed! Until then, though, I'll just retreat to my kitty corner when I need alone time.